Ahhh Teachers, you will either work with us or...YOU WILL WORK WITH US!!!

So my precious little JKer's have homework on the weekend, they have to write out 1 letter of the alphabet a couple of times and then draw or cut and paste pictures that start with that letter, this is nothing new to them as we have been working on them all year, in therapy and at home.. Laurie or Steph, or Mommy and Daddy, draw/write the shape or letter and then it is the boys turn to try. John picked it up pretty quickly while Michael seems to have some coordination issues, as well as not knowing which hand he is more comfortable using... So its sunday afternoon and Aaron and I decide its a good time to do some homework, Aaron takes John and Michael is with me, what happened next both shocked and devistated me. I put the pencil in Michaels hand, and he put it to paper and just sat there, waiting, waiting for me to move his hand, he refused to even try on his own, I knew he was waiting for hand over hand and so I did a couple s' with him and told him it was his turn, and again he just sat there waiting for me to make his hand do what it was supposed to..this is not right, what happened to my boy who would try :(. So I wrote a note to the teacher asking her to follow up with the EA's and let them know that they have to insist he at least try, even if it doesnt look like much at the start, he will get the hang of it, but he has to try. The response was that he was incapable of focusing and the only way to get the letters done is with the hand over hand technique, This did not sit well with me at all, I mean is that how his whole life is going to be? with people doing things for him...well NO I say NO WAY!!! so again I wrote a note explaining again that he has always been willing to try in the past, and that I dont want that to ever change. This morning only one day after my last note, Michael was playing with his etch a sketch, and would you believe he can print every letter of his name!!! Yes, he totally can, might not be in one line or in order yet, but he tried and he can...oh what a proud moment...yes friends I did get a bit teary, but they didnt over flow!! Parents reading this, I must say again and again, YOU ARE YOUR CHILDS VOICE, especially for those who have communication issues, and if you dont speak up on their behalf then they will fall through the cracks. Speak up and Be heard, its the best thing you can do for your child. I even went so far as to take a video of Michael printing the letters of his name, and I can not wait to show his teacher and EA, not to rub it in, but to show them that Michael needs much encouragement to try on his own, and he will surprise them. Over all it was a pretty good day, I kept the kids busy after school by showing them pictures of their friends on facebook, then supper and bed, minimal screaming, fighting, crying etc... One day at a time...Lets see what tomorrow brings.

Help!!! Please, all I need is a little help!!!

Oh what a day this has been, I am about ready to pull my hair out, as always the day started with pooh all over Michaels room, why oh why will this kid not tell us before, no he just sits up there quietly at who knows what time, takes his taped on backwards one piece pajamas off and poohs in his room, then proceeds to wipe it on everything, uuuggghhh deal with that later, get him cleaned up, get all kids cleaned up, with Aarons help of course (he really does do a lot for those who always hear me complain about what he doesnt do lol) now everyone is supposed to be eating breakfast...you know how that goes from my previous post, meanwhile mommy has gone downstairs to put Hopes cloth diapers in the wash, come back upstairs to find the kids are no longer eating but getting into everything, and half my clean unfolded laundry is on the floor, put movie on, and plan my day...hmmm still getting into trouble, ok well its 10:30 lets have a short quiet time so that mommy can get snacks packed while Daddy gets lunches ready...crap, Michaels room is still a poopy mess...uuuhhgggg, okay just put him with John in Johns room, how bad could it get in 30 minutes...I will tell you how bad, 30 minutes later, both boys are naked and yup you guessed it, there is pooh now in Johns room too :'( just get cleaned up, eat your lunch and go to school... if only that could happen without the screaming and crying, and fighting to get their clothes on and shoes and out the door...AAAHHHHHH!!!! I already feel like I am losing my mind and it is only 11:30...its ok, we have a couple hours to clean up and fold laundry.....WRONG!!!! gotta take the husband and go to Home Depot to get some parts for a job he is working on, by the time we get home from that guess what, its time to go get the kids from school, That adventure was actually really good, they are settling into the routine and getting used to the idea that they are not allowed to run on the street, so that was a definite highlight, until....we get home to learn that Daddy is going to be later then expected as the emergency is a lot worse then expected... but...but...I cant do this alone, no really I cant, call me a horrible mom if you want, but you better make sure you live a day in my shoes first!! So Aaron comes home for a few minutes because I need to contact a local plumber, he makes the kids pb&j for supper while i am on the phone, then before he leaves he goes up and cleans both poopy rooms...Thank you hunny, if he didnt do that bedtime would have been real interesting, so the kids eat and the phone rings, the person on the other end is someone I love very much but never seem to have a moment to call, so I talk to her for a few minutes, semi-oblivious to what my kids are doing, they are safe but quite honestly as long as they are safe then for the moment i dont care what they are up to...well I regret that pretty quick, Michael and John dumped 3/4 of a bag of cheerios on the floor and then proceeded to go upstairs and run their own bath and get in...its not bath night but I admire their ambition, until I step in the massive pool of water on the bathroom floor...come on now really? Enough is enough, get out of the tub and get to bed...another war and finally...ahhh kids are in bed and asleep, now I have to clean up after what appears to be a cyclone that has gone through my house...oh please can I just run away....I really just dont want to deal with the constant behaviours and my house being a disaster all the time, any more... God please give me strength because I am at my wits end here... Dont get me wrong, I love my family with all my heart and wouldnt trade them for anything, it just wears a person down sometimes. Thank God though for good friends and a wonderful husband, without them I would be a total basket case, now I am just partial LOL

JK is here... Lord Help me get through

Well we are almost at the second week of school, and still struggling to get through the day to day routine, the boys are only in half days, and I am finding it difficult to get organized, and settled. Our day starts with, waking up, pull up changes and what is supposed to be breakfast, I say supposed to be because it is actually a big feat of "no" "don't touch" "get out of the fridge" "sit down and eat" "leave your (sister, brother, dog) alone" "sit down and eat" "no school until after lunch" "no you cant have your snack" "put it back" "sit down and eat" "get in the house" " no touching"...... you get the point. this portion of our day usually ends in breakfast on the floor and everyone screaming and crying. Next its "ahh its only 9:00!!! What can we do to keep them busy tod....Dont touch!! Get out of there!!! NO SCHOOL UNTIL AFTER LUNCH!!!" this goes on for about an hour or so as we struggle to keep our little busy bodies busy, this usually ends in a short half our quiet time so that Mommy can get lunch ready and get everyones snacks repacked and just get over all organized. Lunch time is at roughly 11am and it starts with "Michael come on!!! why did you take your clothes off, why did you poop on the floor, why oh why will you not tell mommy and daddy when you have to go and go on the potty!?!?!?, come on lets go get you cleaned up and dressed its lunch time" things go pretty ok from here, the kids all eat lunch, Mommy finishes getting ready and its off to school we go....the walk is about a kilometre each way, so it burns off some energy so that they can focus a little better (I hope)however it also has its challenges, they are wearing their back packs so the monkey harnesses are not really an option here, but a brilliantly creative friend of mine thought of an idea to use her jogging strap on her stroller as a sort of handel for the kids to hold onto...hmmm thats great but I dont have one and I need 2...hmmmmm the leash (for lack of a better word)from the monkey harnesses would work great, now I have 2 handles and they boys actually hold on to them for the walk....what a relief because let me tell you we had some major challenges that first week, one day for example Aaron was walking them to school and John got away from him and ran out in front of a bus...FREAK OUT!!! Thank God in Heaven that my kids have angels all around them. Anyway from what I am told the school days have been going pretty good, they have an EA that stays in the class with them and although they cant sit still they have been coming home with good listening stamps every day, so that makes me proud..and jealous lol. The walk home is a little more challenging the kids are tired but excited about their day, but we make it, and the nightmare begins again..."dont touch" "away from the stove" "would you just for once go play with your toys and let me cook supper in....Aaron!!!!! Hopes on the table, Johns running out the door, and Michael wont get away from the stove HELP!!! Supper time is the same thing...then finally bath and bed...ahhh peace and..bark bark bark bark...REALLY!!!! :( That is our day in a nut shell, its a challange and most days I just want run away, find a new life and forget all the struggles and challanges, I mean my house is a right off, laundry doesnt even get folded and its back in the dirty pile, Im tired and emotionally worn out.....But!!! BUT!!! Every night I go to bed and I think about my day, and I try very (sometimes very very very) hard to find the new positive....hey John ate all his supper without getting out of his chair tonight, Michael didnt bang his head at all today, Hope said a new word, I have a husband who loves me at my best and worst, and I remember that life is short and time travels fast, and before I know it my kids will be off having their own challenges, how I handle mine will teach them how to handel theirs, so we will continue to do the best we know how, we will continue to be open to learning new and creative ways to encourage our kids to learn and grow, we will be the best parents we can be. For anyone who has been following, I know my blogs are far and few between, I am sure you all can understand that my hands are very full, anyway the point I want to make is that yes in my previous blog the head banging and fecal smearing had almost stopped, but now I am mentioning it again, well that is because the boys fell back into old habits, this is common, we have had it happen a couple of times actually.... when they were babies, like 10-12 months, I could get them to repeat some words then one day they stopped then when they were 2.5 they were learning words through therapy, we moved just after their 3rd birthday and a couple months later they just stopped again....it wasn't until early spring that they really started talking again like in sentences...I hope it sticks...but anyway that is just an example of how things change some times its like 1 step forward and 2 back or at least thats what it feels like. They will get there one of these days, it just takes patience over and over again. Enough for now, (gotta go get the boys from school) Take care Niki